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A Month of Tales

Hey yall, it’s been a while since I posted about me and what’s been going on, so I wanted to take some time to touch base and check-in. As always, you know I missed yall. I miss our talks, just been busy learning new things, and when I get going on something, I can’t stop.

I brought us some breakfast. Come on and grab a seat. I want to have breakfast with you.
The Family

The family is growing and flourishing.


Mackenzie did a lot of reading over the Christmas break, so when January came, she and two other girls at her school got to be the Principal for a day.

She is in the middle.

She also made the AB honor roll. We went to the honor ceremony, but she didn’t get her award. I could tell she was upset. She told me she cried in the bathroom, but she got it together. Natlie and I told her a piece of paper doesn’t define you. It’s how you feel inside. Well, she wanted an award. We ended up getting some cupcakes to make up for the loss.

Phatty’s grades.

Madison is turning 17 years old this month, and we have a surprise for her, a much-needed surprise. I think it will benefit everyone. She has a boyfriend, and I think it may be pretty serious. As a mom, I am in the business but not in the business. I remember being a teenager, knowing I need to have boundaries. I’m just blessed she talks to me and keep me in the loop. I even spoke to the young man, and he is so well-mannered. He even plays sports.

Madison has improved on being an introvert. is starting to go out more now, and she has a circle of really good friends. Her grades are improving as well. She has an issue with Science, but it’s okay. She passed the class for the semester.


Natlie has been on her Scorpio vibe lately. If you are a Scorpio or know a Scorpio you know when they start working or get something in their head they get focused and are work driven. Since she has been promoted last year, she has been really working on her position at work, and just focusing on improving.

I can’t say anything bad. As a couple, we have our ups and downs, but Natlie has been growing and improving, making me a better person.

We have started exercising more, which helps to have a workout buddy. She loves doing planks, and I am her wingman. No, I’m not planking, but I do hold the timer and say “Great Job!”

Ivey (Me)

As for me, put your seatbelt on. I have been dealing with a lot but nothing at the same time. I have had a few altercations with stalking.

I don’t want to go into detail, I refuse to give life to a dead situation, but I will say that the past has a funny way of sneaking back up on you. Stalkers, bullies, instigators… if they were in your past, they would show back up.

Hopefully, life will have made you grow! You better know how to handle the past to move on with your life for a better future. That’s the message.

For the first time, I passed out drunk at a bar. Yall, I was bent, tore up from the floor, in the back seat drunk. Listen, if you see a video of a thick black female passed out on a curb at a bar… in Charlotte, NC… THATS ME!! I should be ashamed, but I’m not.

Listen, maybe this isn’t a goal, but I have never done anything exciting or close to embarrassing to want to hide my head. This situation makes me feel like I’m in a new club or something. Do you know how many times I heard of these drunk stories and wondered what it’s like?

Well, I can tell you it’s not much to tell… I don’t remember much. I got groped at the bar, got in my feelings, started drinking, and passed out. That’s the truth.

I have been going through some things!

I suppose to be on a diet, but I haven’t done well. It is ok; it’s alright; I’m going to get it together. I just need some space and time to gather my thoughts.

Do you ever have a lot on your do-to list, and it’s Monday, and before you know it, it’s Friday, and you still haven’t even gotten to the middle of the list? That is how I feel a lot lately.  I’m in this mode of don’t think about it, do it. Don’t hesitate, do it!

Ok yall, I have to get my day started, but I had to come and talk with you and catch up.

As always, Big Hugs and Warm Smiles


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Week 3 Weight Loss Check-In

Hey yall, how have yall been doing since last week? Not going to beat around the bush, but here are my weekly results!

I don’t care what the scale says; my clothes are begging the difference!! I need to invest in a full-length mirror so we can start seeing the result on paper, buddy! Please work with me. I’m new at this!

Looking at the scale, I know it looks like I haven’t done anything, but I have lost inches in my waist, actually all over, but I’m focusing on my mid-section! Here is my weekly diet:


Every day I had oatmeal with frozen fruit for breakfast.

I have different varieties of fruits. I love peaches, bananas, and kiwis. There are so many different frozen fruits to choose from.

For lunch, I had veggies. Tomatoes, onions, cucumbers! I did veggie fajitas without the wrap. I made tuna salad with just lettuce, cucumbers, tuna, balsamic vinegarette, parmesan cheese—Bell peppers, and onions with rice and mushrooms.

I know it doesn’t look like much, but this veggie dish is fantastic—cucumbers, onions, tomatoes, balsamic vinegarette and parmesan cheese.

For dinner, I had baked chicken A LOT, baked veggies, and twice a 1/2 cup of mashed potatoes or rice.

Every day I have a gallon of water. I use different fruits and herbs to spruce up the flavor. I love ginger, lemon, lime, apples, cinnamon, a splash of nutmeg, pineapples, and cucumber; the list goes on.

What did you eat? Be honest. The scale won’t lie!
  • I had fast food… McDonald’s! Natlie and I shared a two-cheeseburger combo large with a Sprite on Wednesday!
  • Yesterday I had two pieces of pizza and a cup of soda!

I did it… I’m NOT THAT STRONG. You think you will eat a burger in front of me and THINK I’m not going to take a bite? You out your rabid-ass mind! Let’s talk about it, she had the burger, and it looked good, and I wanted a bite… so I took the other burger. JUDGE ME!

Let’s not focus on the negative. Let’s talk about my blood pressure. It is now down to 140/87! Wait a minute, stop the press. Let us dance, please:


Weekly Summary

I don’t have anything to complain about, the clothes I wanted to get into, I actually can get into them! Now, I need to set another goal. Sunday, I want to be 243!

See, the thing is, I don’t look at the scale and focus on a number. I used to, but when I exercise, and my clothes fit one way but the scale leaning to the right makes me want to buy clothes and focus on getting into them instead. I feel like the scale is playing with my emotions.

Natlie says when you start to lose fat and tone up, the scale may not change much, but you will see it on the person. She said you have to take into account weightlifting. Muscle weighs more than fat. She also told me it doesn’t help my cheat day is the day before my weigh-in.

She is correct, but don’t tell her I said that.

Ok yall, I’m going to do a mid-morning workout. Yes, I am doing two workouts a day. It helps me get those 5000 steps in, and I feel motivated when I see how my clothes are starting to look on me.

I feel good about myself.

As always sending you Big Hugs and Warm Smiles.


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Ramen Chicken and Veggies

I fell in love with this Ramen Chicken and Veggie recipe a while ago. My daughters were craving noodles and sushi during the start of Covid, and everything was closed down. I told them I could do an Oriental Night at home, which began the start of many themed dinner nights.

This particular recipe is unique because I didn’t have a lot of ingredients, two packs of ramen noodles, a frozen bag of veggies, and chicken breast.

When you add the frozen vegetables, it adds more juice to the recipe. You can add more seasonings if you like when you add the veggies. Crushed red pepper, thyme, lemon pepper, and basil, to name a few. 

This turned out to become a family favorite. Sometimes the best family recipes come from simple mistakes or simple ingredients. This recipe is easy to make and will feed the entire family. All you need is a few ingredients, and dinner will be on the table in no time.

  • Chicken – you can use any part of the chicken. I have used legs, wings, thighs, and breasts; it is what you have on hand. In this video, I had chicken breast on hand.
  • VeggiesWhat do you have on hand? I had a bag of frozen Normandy Vegetables, but you can use anything. Here is a quick list: cauliflower, broccoli, green beans, peas, carrots, bell pepper, onions, zucchini, asparagus, mushrooms, leeks, spinach, corn, eggplant, pumpkin, cabbage… I have a love affair with veggies; all of these go so well together that you can’t go wrong.
  • Ramen NoodlesWhat do you have on hand? Do you have two packs that are different? Let us use them. This recipe, you can’t go wrong.
the sauce
  • Soy Sauce – you can substitute with oyster sauce, fish sauce, or Worcestershire sauce.
  • Honey – a little dab will do you
  • Water
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Ramen Chicken and Veggies

Prep Time 7 mins
Cook Time 30 mins
Course Main Course
Servings 6


  • 2 chicken breast
  • 1 60 oz bag Normandy Blend
  • 2 packs chicken ramen noodles
  • 2 tbsp soy sauce
  • 2 packs seasoning from ramen noodles
  • 1 tbsp honey
  • 1/4 cup water
  • 1 tsp onion powder
  • 1 tbsp garlic powder


  • Cut your chicken breast into the pieces you like. Take the seasoning packs from the ramen noodle packs, and season your chicken.
  • Heat your wok or pan on the stove on medium-high. When the pan is ready, add the chicken and cook for 7-10 minutes. Stir occasionally to make sure the chicken doesn't stick.
  • Add the frozen vegetables of your choice to the pan. Cook for 15 minutes, covered on medium.
    In a bowl, combine the soy sauce, water, onion powder, garlic powder, and honey. Stir, and add to the pan as well.
  • Add your ramen noodles to the pot, put your chicken and veggies over the ramen noodles, reduce the heat to low, and cover.
  • After 5 minutes, stir your noodles. You will see how they are easy to pull apart and mix with the chicken and veggies. Cook for another 5-7 minutes. Make sure to thoroughly mix the noodles with the chicken and veggies. Enjoy.


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Beef Goulash

This beef goulash recipe is great for those cold winter nights or a quick weekday meal. It takes only a few ingredients; the best part is you only need one pot.

My family loves this easy pasta dish, and your family will love it too. You don’t have to have a set ingredient for this dish. You can mix and match as you see fit. You will only need a large pot because it makes a lot.

  • Onions – you can use any onion you have on hand. Remember that red onion is a little spicer, so only use half.
  • Beef – you can use ground turkey
  • Bell Peppers – you can use any bell pepper you have on hand. I use green, red, yellow, and orange bell peppers. They add a beautiful color to the dish.
  • Garlic – you can use fresh, minced, or powdered
  • Tomato Sauce – I use tomato paste, but you can use tomato sauce!
  • Diced Tomatoes – you can use any canned tomatoes you like. I have used whole, petite-diced, diced, stewed, and fresh tomatoes.
  • Broth – you can use water, chicken, or beef broth.
  • Noodles – you can use ANY noodle you have on hand.
  • Bay Leaves – for the flavor. Trust me!

Another amazing thing about this dish is you can practically add anything to it, and it will taste phenomenal.

Sidenote: I don’t drain the oil from my beef. I use 93/7 percent beef, which doesn’t make a lot of oil. I consider that flavor! It isn’t oily, and the oil helps keep the noodles and other ingredients from sticking.

Do you see how I put the dried noodles on top and stirred them in? You don’t have to precook your noodles. The pot flavors will cook right in, and I’m telling you, it will be amazing. Just give it a thorough stir to get all the noodles saturated and cover.

Jazz it up with these options
  • Corn
  • Carrots
  • Peas
  • Green Beans
  • Spinach
  • Cabbage
  • Mushrooms
  • Broccoli
  • Sour Cream and/or Cream Cheese – Creamy Goodness If you decide to use this amazing option, wait 20 minutes before serving, and add what you have. I use an entire package of cream cheese and an entire container of sour cream. Listen to me; this is the 8th Wonder of the World.

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Beef Goulash

Prep Time 15 mins
Cook Time 45 mins
Course Main Course


  • 2 lbs beef
  • 2 bell peppers
  • 2 onions
  • 1 box pasta
  • 1 can tomato paste
  • 2 cans diced tomatoes
  • 2 tbsp garlic
  • 2 tbsp salt
  • 2 tbsp pepper
  • 2 tbsp sugar (for tomatoes)
  • 1 tbsp crushed red pepper
  • 1 tbsp Italian seasoning
  • 3 cups water or broth
  • 2 bay leaves


  • In a large pot, brown your ground beef, bell pepper, and onions.
    I do not drain my oil from the beef. I use 93/7 percent beef, which doesn't make a lot of oil. Please drain your beef if you need to!
  • Once the beef is brown, add all your other ingredients to the pot and add your dry noodles. Stir and cover. Let simmer for 10 minutes, and stir. Don't let the noodles stick.
  • Make sure to remove bay leaves!
  • Enjoy.


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Diet Changes Update!

Hey yall, we need to talk!

I want to make some adjustments to my diet and exercise. I’m starting to get stressed from not reaching my goals daily, and I feel it is taking a toll on my success, so we will make some changes.


We started on this 21-Day Smoothie Challenge. Then last week, I messed up, and I feel guilty. I haven’t even had a real smoothie since last Monday.

I want to incorporate more food into my diet. I want to eat more salads and have veggie fajitas and gluten-free bread. Listen, I’m a southern woman with a love affair with gravy. I’m giving up the chocolate, the fruitcake, eggnog, and alfredo sauce; let me have some gluten-free bread every so often!

We have to go slow on this road to success.

I have been on this cauliflower kick lately. Did you know it tastes like chicken if you do it right? I even use apples in my fajitas as a meat replacement. I know it sounds crazy, but the onions, bell peppers, and other veggies balance out the sweetness of the apples.


I need to reduce my walking from 7000 to 5000.

So I am having trouble keeping my phone on me at all times, and it is easier for me to walk to 5000 steps than 7000 if I forget my phone.

Let me tell you a story…

Not too long ago, my lovely family bought me some portable headphones. I am used to having my phone on me because I had wired headphones. This particular day, I went to my music playlist, hit my favorite song, PUT MY PHONE DOWN, and proceeded to exercise for 45 minutes.

As I finished my workout. I PICK UP my phone, excited to see my steps, only to realize I never had it on me.

I will invest in a smartwatch; I always find something else to do with my money. It seems the kids need shoes, or we running out of seasonings. I need to refill my medicine, and the gas tank is low. Let us not talk about the kids having school activities, or the school needing a tissue, or you just so happen to see some meat on sale, and you are going to get that turkey bacon because you can’t usually find it.

With that being said, and my little moment of insanity, we will try something a little different and see how I do.

Also, I want to incorporate a Cheat Day. I want some ice cream, and knowing I can’t have any makes me feel crazy inside.

I feel better getting this off my chest! I needed an outlet and felt guilty for not keeping my word. Deep down, I care about gaining that pound, but I don’t feel I need to beat myself up. I am learning I beat myself up and am my own worse critic. I’m teaching myself not to be so hard on myself so much.

Ok yall, Big Hugs and Warm Smiles


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Week Two Weight Loss Check-In

Hey yall, this has been a crazy week for weight loss, and I didn’t do good. Go ahead and fuss!!

Here are my results:

I gained a pound!

Here are my Sweatcoin Steps:

I know I haven’t been walking 7000 steps a day.
My Weekly Summary

Truthfully, I started this week doing well with my diet and exercise.

Tuesday, I got into a situation and decided to eat cookies and drink vodka. Being COMPLETELY HONEST!

Wednesday, I was recovering from being vodka and cookie wasted.

Thursday, I exercised but went out to eat. Yes, I Did. I ate wings, burgers, salad, onion rings, french fries… I was so happy!

Friday – I’m a woman, and once a month, Aunt Flo likes to pay a visit. WELL, SHE SHOWED UP!

Saturday… I gained that pound, and I said I wouldn’t beat myself up. I did what I did, and I have to get back on the good foot.

Weekly summary

I can sit here and write about how I should have done better and how I know that I should do certain things, but for once, I’m going to say


Yes, I gained a pound, but I WILL do better tomorrow. I had a few mishaps, and I see what it cost me. I know I have an event in a month; if it is essential, I will have to do better.

I hope to regain my composure for the upcoming week, NOT allowing outside forces to cause me to backslide. I need to stay focused and continue drinking a gallon of water daily. Keep up with my fruits and veggies and watch my protein intake.

Ok yall, I hope you have an amazing week.

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Big Hugs and Warm Smiles


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Easy Bacon Grits

Have you ever wanted bacon and grits but didn’t have the money?

You will be surprised by the fantastic treasures in your kitchen that can turn something into an edible masterpiece.

One such treasure is bacon bits.

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Yes, you heard right. I have been using bacon bits as a substitute for many things, and it is cost-efficient, and you get a lot for your buck.

Here are a few examples of how to use bacon bits.. put your seatbelt on:

  • pork egg rolls
  • bacon and cheese omelet
  • grits
  • bacon cheeseburgers
  • pasta
  • pizza toppings
  • dressings (to add a hint of something)

If you are a fan of the bacon grits in the store, I promise you will fall in love with these bacon grits.

I love to use Quaker 5-Minute Grits, and I use a half pack of turkey gravy. If you aren’t a fan of turkey, you can choose another type of gravy. If you choose NOT to use any gravy, all you need is:

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Easy Bacon Grits

A frugal recipe that only takes a handful of ingredients. From stove to table within 10 minutes.
Cook Time 7 mins
Servings 4


  • 4 cups water
  • 1 cup grits
  • 1/2 tsp salt
  • 1 tbsp butter
  • 2 tbsp bacon bits (any kind)
  • 1/2 package turkey gravy


  • Bring water to a boil. Add salt, butter, and grits. Stir until no lumps are left. I always use a metal whisk.
  • Turn down to low and add your bacon bits and gravy. Stir really well, and let simmer for 5-6 minutes.
  • Enjoy!


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